A relationship with a significant other can be where we learn some of the most amazing lessons about ourselves and not only ourselves, but of life, money, love, and communication, just to name a few. Being close to one another through the ups and downs of life, a healthy relationship is where we learn to trust in others and in our own abilities. Through an exchange of daily activity, we can learn of our own value to each other and express that value in many ways. And real unconditional love grows as we build this trust and express our value without a need to keep score or a need to prove our worthiness.
To release our challenges and live with greater joy, most significant relationships in our life can also show us where we require growth. Having been raised to believe many various concepts, ideas, and stories about men, women, life, money, and love, our relationships can mirror to us our ultimate life lessons. All of these belief systems and generational paradigms are expressed through what I describe as the “Separate Self.” A conditioned and patterned part of every human being, that limits our experiences through these ideas and stories. Some of the stories can be very healthy and support a beautiful lifestyle while others can be very damaging. Creating awareness of our patterns and beliefs and the “Separate Self” can alter our relationships and our life significantly, and with the appropriate tools, bring peace, joy, and a more healthy, abundant, life for each partner.
Here are 11 powerful suggestions for a happy, healthy relationship:1. Trust that life is working perfectly. What is being presented to you through your experience, is perfect for you and your own growth.2. Learn to be yourself, love yourself and fulfill your dream. These are three huge aspects to enjoy an amazing love. Being in love is beautiful, but it does not mean giving up your dream for another. Be authentic, courageous and free.3. Become aware of your own and your partners behavioral and thought patterns, and be accepting of what is. This eliminates stress and irritation. Then together, you make seek to improve your interaction and grow without unnecessary upheaval. 4. Be clear as to the type of partner you desire. Make a list ofthe most pleasant aspects of the person you wish to share your life and love with. Be prepared to be shown through this relationship, opportunities where you can improve.5. Cultivate your love by doing things together that you both love to do. Spend quality time together. Express words of affirmation. Perform acts of service. Be free to feel more and think less. 6. Learn of your partners healthy needs and allow the partnerto fulfill them. It is not up to you to fulfill their needs.7. Believe in a beautiful, fulfilling love. Overcome your old ideas and concepts of love. Allow yourself this lovewithout an attachment as to how it, “needs to look.”8. Understand and integrate: There are infinite possibilities for your life and your love.9. Do not blame others for your current situation. Although the mind may “make up” a story to place blame elsewhere, more than likely you have made choices to bring you to your present situation and your current state of mind.10. Release the baggage of the past. It is no longer real unless you choose to keep it real.11. You came here to have this experience. Life is not an accident and neither are your relationships.
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Some recommended references you may choose to read are:
The Five Love Languages By Gary Chapman
Men Are From Mars, Women are from Venus By John Gray
Let Go of The Sh*! Show By Michael Vukelic